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Feb 15 2009

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ON Happy Marriage

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Enjoy Being Married

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Find this amazing site, just want to share

The author offers great advice and seems to enjoy helping others remain in lovewithin happy marriages. She’s truly amazing and I do appreciate her knowledge, time and efforts to help others! Bless her heart! SOURCE

 Also, a link to the person’s blog: ASSUME LOVE

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1.  Put Pen to Paper. Back before cell phones and instant messaging, people wrote letters of affection to each other, often waiting weeks to receive them. “Love letters exchanged between a couple can strengthen their relationship by helping them to connect to one another on a deeper level,” Lilia Fallgatter, author of The Most Important Letter You Will Ever Write: How to Tell Loved Ones How You Feel Before It’s Too Late.

  1. Sleep As Singles. It was TV censors who kept sitcom couples in separate beds, but maybe there was wisdom to catching your ZZZs in your own bed. Many couples who are secure enough to seek satisfying slumber on their own report using the regained energy for more … loving pursuits.
  2. Maintain Same-Sex Friends — and Interests. It’s only been during the past couple of decades that couples expected to share a bulk of their free time together. Retro couples didn’t necessarily want to participate in each others hobbies.
  3. Look Sharp. Les Parrott, PhD, and professor of psychology at Seattle Pacific University, says you can inspire romance by dressing up for the occasion. “Taking time with your appearance inspires romance and shows your partner you care.”
  4. Don’t Go to Bed Angry.  Even if you can’t resolve a disagreement before you hit the sheets, you can agree to let the anger go for the night.
  5. Hit the Dance Floor. Putting on your dancing shoes can put the sizzle back into a relationship that has fizzled.
  6. Have Couples Fun. Bridge and pinochle were common activities shared by our parents and their friends. So was cocktail hour and formal anniversary celebrations with like-minded couples.
  7. Give Compliments. To give a compliment, you’ve got to pay attention — really notice something about someone.
  8. Hold Hands. Back in our parents’ time, hand-holding and discreet pecks on the cheek were the tasteful, chaste displays of affection.
  9. Cut Back on Complaints. Relaying every annoyance is a bad idea. Instead, pick your battles.
  10. Try Thoughtful Little Acts. “The presence of little, daily thoughtful acts showed caring and appreciation for one another,” says licensed clinical social

 

Take a look back on how our parents/grandparents took their marriages with commitments. The longer they were together we see their marriage as companionship in some of them. Now, in our generation we want it all…great sex, romance, and more intimacy!  But, if we bring together these 2 approaches… the previous generation’s gentleness and graciousness and join them in with the technology and savvy of today’s marriage it would be a lesser divorces in the future!

 

 

 

 

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Feb 03 2009

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Valentine Around the Globe!

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  VALENTINE’S

 

DAY…

 

AROUND THE

 

GLOBE

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Back in third-century Rome when Emperor Claudius II banned marriages because he thought single men made better soldiers, one passionate priest named Valentine continued to wed young lovers. Later imprisoned for his defiance, Valentine fell in love with a young girl who came to visit his cell. Before his death, the story goes, the priest wrote her a letter–the first valentine. Nearly two millennia later, Valentine’s Day rakes in $17 billion in the U.S. But other countries are crashing Cupid’s party too, as shown in the pictures below.

Valentine’s Day In Japan

Japanese women give chocolates to their boyfriends, male friends and co-workers. The men return the favor a month later on March 14, known as White Day, by handing out white chocolates, lingerie and jewelry to their friends and loved ones. Those who dreaded their high school prom would sweat bullets on Valentine’s Day in Japan. “Valentine’s Day has really caught on,” says Jack Santino, professor of folklore and popular culture at Bowling Green State University. He notes, “It is very important to have a date.”

Valentine’s Day

 In Norway

In Denmark and Norway, Valentine’s Day, or Valentinsdag, is not celebrated widely, though some lovers share a romantic meal, exchange cards and give red roses. What Norwegians really love, apparently, is the environment: The country is pushing to import fewer flowers in an attempt to become the world’s first carbon-neutral economy by 2050.

Valentine’s Day

In Iran


Muslims don’t exactly embrace Cupid. However, Valentine’s Day is gaining traction with the younger, more Westernized crowd, says Iranian-American filmmaker Shaghayegh Azimi, who has captured some of the romance in her movies. Increasingly, stores decorate windows with stuffed animals, heart-shaped chocolates and red balloons, and teenagers show their affection by holding hands and strolling though the alleys of Tehran together.

Valentine’s Day

In Mexico

Cupid’s definitely a hit in Mexico. According to Jennifer Hirsch, professor of socio-medical sciences at Columbia University, the “red rain” begins as soon as Christmas is over. It is common for Mexican men and women to exchange flowers, red balloons, anything red and heart-shaped. The gift-giving is both an expression of love and prosperity, says Hirsch. Migrant laborers in particular demonstrate their success by treating their loved ones.

Valentine’s Day

In Vietnam

Valentine’s Day is a new tradition in Vietnam. As recently as the late 1990s, there were no card shops or Valentine’s Day celebrations to speak of, says Harriet Phinney, a professor of anthropology at the University of Washington who has researched love and courtship around the globe. Yet on a recent visit, Phinney noticed banners with Valentine messages strung over the main streets inviting young people to attend Valentine’s Day celebrations. Married couples tend not to participate, though: “In Vietnam, romance is ‘for before you are married,’” says Phinney.

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                                               Melanie Lindner

 

 

 

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