Feb 15 2009
ON Happy Marriage

Find this amazing site, just want to share…
The author offers great advice and seems to enjoy helping others remain in lovewithin happy marriages. She’s truly amazing and I do appreciate her knowledge, time and efforts to help others! Bless her heart! SOURCE
Also, a link to the person’s blog: ASSUME LOVE
More on Happy Marriage

1. Put Pen to Paper. Back before cell phones and instant messaging, people wrote letters of affection to each other, often waiting weeks to receive them. “Love letters exchanged between a couple can strengthen their relationship by helping them to connect to one another on a deeper level,” Lilia Fallgatter, author of The Most Important Letter You Will Ever Write: How to Tell Loved Ones How You Feel Before It’s Too Late.
- Sleep As Singles. It was TV censors who kept sitcom couples in separate beds, but maybe there was wisdom to catching your ZZZs in your own bed. Many couples who are secure enough to seek satisfying slumber on their own report using the regained energy for more … loving pursuits.
- Maintain Same-Sex Friends — and Interests. It’s only been during the past couple of decades that couples expected to share a bulk of their free time together. Retro couples didn’t necessarily want to participate in each others hobbies.
- Look Sharp. Les Parrott, PhD, and professor of psychology at Seattle Pacific University, says you can inspire romance by dressing up for the occasion. “Taking time with your appearance inspires romance and shows your partner you care.”
- Don’t Go to Bed Angry. Even if you can’t resolve a disagreement before you hit the sheets, you can agree to let the anger go for the night.
- Hit the Dance Floor. Putting on your dancing shoes can put the sizzle back into a relationship that has fizzled.
- Have Couples Fun. Bridge and pinochle were common activities shared by our parents and their friends. So was cocktail hour and formal anniversary celebrations with like-minded couples.
- Give Compliments. To give a compliment, you’ve got to pay attention — really notice something about someone.
- Hold Hands. Back in our parents’ time, hand-holding and discreet pecks on the cheek were the tasteful, chaste displays of affection.
- Cut Back on Complaints. Relaying every annoyance is a bad idea. Instead, pick your battles.
- Try Thoughtful Little Acts. “The presence of little, daily thoughtful acts showed caring and appreciation for one another,” says licensed clinical social
Take a look back on how our parents/grandparents took their marriages with commitments. The longer they were together we see their marriage as companionship in some of them. Now, in our generation we want it all…great sex, romance, and more intimacy! But, if we bring together these 2 approaches… the previous generation’s gentleness and graciousness and join them in with the technology and savvy of today’s marriage it would be a lesser divorces in the future!






